In a world where society marks women as complicated and men as simple creatures, I want to delve deeper.
After a conversation with an old friend, I had to step back and think… Is it really that SIMPLE to please a man, get a man, and keep a man. He seems to think if women provided a basic foundation of 4 simple, yet critical basics such as providing frequent sex, cooking often, maintaining a clean home, and keeping his mind at ease, he and every man he knows would be immensely happy and fulfilled… here to stay! In addition, he went on to say he would compromise and choose a less attractive woman who provided the Simple 4 vs. the dime piece that provided 2 out of 4. The feminist inside of me is a bit taken back, but the nurturing feminine woman inside actually doesn’t have an issue with any of the “simple” four.
When I think of the men in my life: friends, uncles, cousins, sons, and my hubby. I don’t think “simple”. I think women are coined as complicated because we are constantly evolving with our wants, needs, and desires. Whereas, men are deemed simple because the have a few core characteristics, whatever they may be to each individual man, that may never change. My question; if a man’s desires are that easy to fulfill then why are men claiming they are not? Can’t we derive that regardless of how “simple” it may appear to maintain happiness for a man; it really isn’t that “simple” because something causes him to not get all that he wants.
As a modern woman, with old fashion values, I do believe that keeping your man happy includes the four basics amongst others. As I also believe, protecting, providing, and compatibility are key elements for my happiness. It’s certainly easy to say these specific essentials will ensure happiness and satisfaction. The greater dilemma is what the person is providing for the other person that will empower him/her to offer him/her the things he/she desires.
Yes, yes, it’s a cycle…I give, you give… you stop giving, I stop feeling like giving. Then the cycle repeats it self in the reverse. My friend promises that what a man gives in return to a woman are the two pillars of protecting and providing. He says a man should provide an environment where a woman always feels safe and he should provide for that woman: emotionally, financially, sexually, etc.
In theory, Cherado agrees with both sides of this philosophy, but in reality it’s not that simple. For example, if a person provides the “simple” requirements to their mate. If the person provides the basics, would the other person more likely return the favor…probably! Example: If a woman enjoys massages, and her man gave her massages every day, she would likely reciprocate and provide him with things he enjoyed and with more gratitude 
If the man receives more of what he wants, the woman would probably get more of what she wants.
I believe males and females are not that “simple”. We think differently, communicate differently, and value things differently. The key to fulfilling one another would be learning about your partner endlessly and making a conscious effort to provide them with the basics that make them happy so they will feel inspired to provide the things that make the other person happy. Though most people aren’t that self aware and considerate, I would guess if you wanted to maintain a blissful relationship, you would push yourself to develop these characteristics.
I would like to hear from AskCherado.com readers what you think? Are men simple? What are the pillars that keep a man or woman happy in a relationship?
