As a soon to be married woman, I have been bombarded with the solicited and unsolicited financial advice of those who have already taken the plunge. Luckily my fiancé and I were able to find our happy medium where we both felt not only appreciated but valued in our contribution to OUR home. During this journey to marital bliss it has been extremely interesting to hear feedback from different married couples regarding their finances and how they split the major concepts of married life ie. household responsibilities, childcare and other incidentals. More often then not men are adamant regarding the idea of a 50/50 financial split, quick to say what’s yours is mine when they really mean what’s yours is mine as long as you are only taking 50% of it. That idea leads me to the question of: If a marriage is operating under the idea of 50/50, does that 50/50 split count for every aspect of the marriage?
When the house needs tidying will the man sweep, mop and vacuum while the woman dusts, does the laundry and cleans the kitchen? Or when a couple comes home from a hard day of work will the woman boil the water, clean the vegetables, and season the meat while the man cooks the broccoli, makes sure the meat doesn’t burn, and prepare the dessert? When the newborn baby is up crying all night will the couple take turns calming the baby until he/she falls asleep?
In most households, notice I say most because I know there is someone reading this blog who will surely respond NOT my household, but in most households who cooks, who cleans, and who takes care of the children? I can hear my readers responding, screaming, WOMEN or ME!
So I ask you, is it really a 50/50 world when it comes to marriage or is it just 50/50 when it’s convenient?